Dear Ate Xyla,

12 years old lang po ako (too young right?)1st year highs chool lang po ako and varsity (soccer) po ako .Since 1st year high school na po ako mas mahigpit kaysa sa elementary,mas rumami po yung mga assignments and mas strict yung teachers.Nahihirapan pa po ako mag adjust tapos kasama pa po yung pagvavarsity ko na kailangan araw-araw may training.Sinabi ko sa Mom ko na gusto ko mag quit sa pag vavarsity kaya lang napagalitan lang ako , then lalo pa akong nahihirapan mag quit kasi my dad fully supports me sa pag-vavarsity ko , may binili pa nga ang Dad ko na shoes para sa soccer na hindi pa nagagamit tapos may clothes pa sa abroad (my dad is working abroad).Ang rami talaga palang assignments sa high-school!Gusto ko muna mag focus sa studies ko kaya lang nagi-guilty ako kasi nga my dad is working hard tapos sasayangin ko lang. Ano po yung gagawin ko ? -_-‘

 P.S Sorry po magulo yung sulat ko po dito :)

Love, Nadine

Hello Nadine! Few days after my first day in high school started, I was also pressured. I felt God was punishing me because of the assignments and stuff. Then I saw my classmates who were varsity players who felt pressured more. So yeah, I understand your situation. But look, my classmates were able to manage it.

For the mean time, I think you have to improve your time management skills. It’s only the first month and you already feel like quitting. You need to know what is wrong with your system. Maybe you can take that away so that you can handle studies and varsity team at the same time. 

There are students who are just lucky enough to get high grades while they play for their school. There are also students who just pass the subjects but don’t get remarkable grades because of being a part of the varsity team. The point is, again, time management.

What if you tried everything but it still won’t work?

If you aim to get high grades and you can’t handle varsity anymore, then go tell your parents that you want to focus more on your studies. BUT you have to prove them that you really are in focus to your studies by getting high grades because I really think they will expect a lot from you.

If you don’t aim to get high grades and you just want to focus on your studies, then just explain again.

Always remember, every student will encounter difficulties in his/her school life. Studying is not a piece of cake. When you enter college, expect more or expect the unexpected. What you need to do is to prove everyone that you are not a quitter. But if you really can not do it and you aren’t happy anymore, then don’t pretend. Don’t be shy to give up. There are reasons for everything.

Good luck!