The Borrower

Hi Ate Xyla,

i need your help talaga. and i trust you guys kasi we’re like family na rin here. :)

i have this friend in school na sobra maka borrow nang things and when she returns it, it’s already damaged or sometimes, she never returns it na. we just for a year. indeed, she was my first friend when i entered college. and now we are already in 2nd year.

it’s not only my things kasi that she is borrowing. she also borrows from our other friends. and minsan, yung mga hinihiraman niya ang nahihiya kunin yung mga gamit nila. this friend of mine din kasi has so many things. and i don’t personally understand why she keeps on borrowing. she even borrowed my bag which was still very new. my mother bought it for me para daw hindi pa balik2x ung things ko. but it turned out na siya yung unang gumamit ng bag ko and she used it for the whole sem.

ayoko siyang mapasama sa ibang tao. i really want to confront about it, pero the problem is hindi ko alam kung paano ko siya sasabihan without her hurting. alam ko na masakit talaga siya. pero, i want to tell it to her in a way na madali lang niyang maintindihan.

thanks po Ate Xyla.

-ettenad

Hi! I understand what you are trying to say. At some point of my life, I also experienced that pero not to the extent that even my new bag was borrowed. I think that is too much. Yeah, the only thing to do is to confront her. Whether she likes it or not, she would really get hurt in your confrontation. All you have to do is to avoid saying harsh words. Be calm when talking to her. Tell her that what she’s doing went beyond your limits and that you are only concerned about what others would say. Some people kase when they are being confronted, they think that that person is just angry. Tell her that you don’t want others to think of her as this and that. If she’s a true friend, she would understand where you are coming from. Well, she can borrow things naman if it’s really needed but if she just borrows things just because, then that’s not right.

I hope this helped. :) Good luck!

much love,
Xyla ~